Two Dates and Done

So remember boy#1 I talked about in my post Just A Friday Night Out last friday? Ok well he had texted me during the week and wanted to hang out on Wednesday night. I had told him I had dinner and drink plans with my girlfriends because that was the night I already had plans with Jeff from He Loves Me Not..No He Loves Me.

Thursday night rolls around and we met up at my favorite bar Arctica. Everyone knows me there so they always treat me and whoever I’m with good. So me and boy#1 are having a good night. There was good conversation, no awkwardness at all, which is good since I met him while already had a few drinks in me. He paid our tab at the end of the night, walked me home, and gave me a good night kiss. He also texted me after he walked me home saying how he had a good night and would like to do it again soon. Nice right? Is he too nice though? We’ll see.

Saturday I had went to the movies with a few friends and afterwards I met up with boy #1 at the same bar. Same thing again. It was a good time, had some laughs, nothing that made me amazed by him though. So he walks me home again and as we’re approaching my apartment building he asks me if I want him to come up and keep me warm. Um. No. That probably wasn’t the answer he wanted to hear but I don’t really care because I really wasn’t that into him. He questions my answer and I say again, “No.”

Now, he comes off as this really good guy. Sometimes though too nice is not good. But if your going to play the good guy role all night, don’t think at the end of the night you can ask if you can come up, and than get pissy when I say no.

So the next day I’m at the gym on the elliptical doing my thing and who walks in but fucking boy #1. Yes, we go to the same gym. He came over, made small talk, and he went on to his work out. So now, even if I never want to speak to him again, I’ll be running into him at the gym. OF ALL THE FUCKING GYMS IN NYC? Of course the one I go to. That’s my life.

It’s always something.

Stuck at a standstill

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It’s funny how even after a year you can still be at a standstill with someone. So there’s Jeff. I met him over a year ago and where have we gone? Nowhere. Why? Who the fuck knows.

After we met we would hang out a lot. He lives in Long Island so I would go out there to see him and he would come into the city to see me. Okay fair enough.

We get along really well. We have a lot in common, so why am I blogging about this now? Because Jeff and I have had our problems just like any relationship does. We’ve fought, we’ve ditched each other, we’ve gone on dates, and we’ve had good times. Why do we even fight though? We’re nothing. There’s no reason for it.

This past weekend he came in to see me, which I didn’t think he would because he’s told me before he would come in and hasn’t. So he got to my apartment and off to the bars we went. It’s never awkward when we’re together it’s always a good time.

But now, after doing the same thing for a year, it’s like I met him 2 months ago. Nothing has changed. We’ve gone nowhere. He always tells me how much he likes me and how he cares about me, but than do something about it. I’m still doing my own thing, going out, seeing other guys, so it’s not like I’m wasting my time.

We haven’t slept together so it’s not even like he’s getting anything. Yes after a year we haven’t.

He’s 27, lives on his own, has a good job, so what’s the problem? After Jeff”s Dad past away when he was 18, he became very independent and didn’t rely on anyone for anything. Okay, I understand that completely and respect him for that, because I felt the same way after my Dad past away. His last girlfriend cheated on him so that’s always in his head. But come on, it’s been a year, we still talk, clearly there’s feelings.

Stuck at a Standstill.

The “Hey Stranger”

We all know what I’m talking about and we all receive them. The “Hey Stranger”. The text or message that you receive usually from someone of the opposite sex. You usually receive a text or Facebook message from someone you have hooked up with or had a relationship with in the past, or wanted to but didn’t have the opportunity. With the “hey stranger,” they’re usually saying it’s been a long time but I still want to hook up with you.

It usually goes as “Hey Stranger,” “How have you been stranger,” “What’s up stranger?”

Why the hell am I the stranger? Oh yeah I completely fucking disappeared from existence. No. Just because we haven’t spoken I’m the stranger? Because that makes sense.

1. I’m not the stranger

2. You could have texted me weeks ago

3. You obviously haven’t heard from me for a reason

4. I’m not “sketchy” because you haven’t heard from me

Now with Facebook, its easier to see what people are up to these days and its also a lot easier to contact someone. I’m your prime example.

Over the summer I received a Facebook message from someone from my hometown that I have not seen or spoken to in 4 years. He dated this girl I used to be friends with, but don’t talk to anymore. Talk about a “hey stranger.” He said, “Hey stranger, how have you been.” Now I’ll be nice and catch up with them to get to the real reason as to why I’m getting this message. So we start talking and he asks where I’m living which he probably already knew from stalking my Facebook because when I said NYC he said “No way, I’m interning here this summer.” NO FUCKING WAY. Of course he wanted to get drinks and meet up. SO basically I received this message for 3 reasons. He interns in the city, so I’m convenient for him. He works in the city, but lives in Long Island. Perfect. He hasn’t hooked up with anyone in awhile and thinks taking me out for drinks after not speaking to someone for 4 years guarantees them a hookup. He goes back to school after the summer is over 4 hours away, so he wouldn’t have to see me again.

So it gets better. Of course it does. I look at his Facebook, and he has a girlfriend. You think I’m lying, I’m not. Now its one thing to have your relationship status private, but to put it out there and it says your in a relationship and has the girls name just screams out “HEY IM AN ASSHOLE AND HAVE A GF, BUT STILL WANT TO GET WITH YOU.”

So obviously I ask him what’s with the girlfriend. He says “It’s complicated.” “Were not really together anymore, but I told her I would keep it up.” RIGHT.

“Bye Stranger.”

Tool Bag

So that guy I told you about that I was supposed to go on a date with? Yeah I am glad that never happened, seriously. You would think, as guys get older they mature, nope. They don’t. I won’t say all men, but most. Lets see where this tool went wrong.

1. If he called me sweetie one more time I was going to throw up. “Hey Sweetie,” “How was your day sweetie,” “Thanks sweetie,” “Night sweetie”

GAG ME. Why are you giving me pet names and I met you for 15 minutes? Oh okay. Fucking weirdo.

2. Two days after we met he had texted me and asked what I was doing. I had just gotten out of the movies after seeing Drive, which was terrible don’t see it, so that’s what I told him. I asked him what he was up to and he goes, “At a strip club.”

Now, I don’t care if guys go to strip clubs. I’ve gone to one too, it’s not that big of a deal. But come on, you haven’t even taken me out on a date. That’s definitely not a way to impress a girl. Because I don’t care I respond with “Texting at a strip club?” “Shouldn’t you be putting bills in some panties?” He tells me no its his friends place. Okay whatever.

3. Invited me to the strip club. BRO, you haven’t taken me out, but you invite me to meet you at the strip club. You’re so classy.

I tell him I’m going to bed soon and he asks if he can tuck me in. Umm..No.

4. So he’s in the credit card business, which from what he was saying he gets small businesses to use his credit card service to save them money. Okay cool whatever. So we’re talking about where I work and he asks me if they take credit cards. I’m like yeah. He tells me he can save my boss money.

Oh yeah let me just go up to my boss and say “So I met this guy outside my apartment building and he wants to save you money and have you switch to his credit card company.” Oh yeah she’ll definitely go for that. Not. So I tell him the owner is always out of the country. He responds with “I can use the business.”

DO YOU MEET GIRLS TO HELP YOU WITH YOUR BUSINESS? Get out of here. And you shouldn’t let a girl you want to take out know that you could use the business.

5. So the next day he’s asking me about going out to dinner and what not. He tells me that for desert I’m all his.

LEARN HOW TO SPELL DESSERT. And after that comment I really won’t go out with you.

I am relieved I never went on a date with this schmuck.

New York City I still love you.

Got Myself a Date

Dating is a game and some are successful at playing it and some are unsuccessful. We all know the famous cliché everything happens for a reason, but its true. Timing is everything. Dating in New York City is a challenge as it is, especially for women since the ratio is 3 women per 1 man, so they clearly have the option to pick and choose. Today I met a guy as I was almost to my apartment building. I hear “so we’re neighbors, but we never met?” I turn around and see an attractive dark haired guy staring back at me. So I stop and start talking to him. I now have a date with this guy for later this week. I’ll tell you a little bit about him. His names Raphael, he’s 28, Israeli, originally from Brooklyn, lives in Murray Hill now, and works in the credit card business. Seems normal enough right? So after talking for about 10 minutes he decided to ask me if I would like to get dinner with him later this week. So I say yes. Why not? Life’s about taking chances and doing things you normally wouldn’t do. Timing was everything with Raphael. I had French class until 6pm and she never lets us out early, but today she did. Who would have known that getting out of class early would end up with me landing a date for this weekend? He asked me for my number, called me so I had his, and we went our separate ways. I soon got a text from him saying that he was looking forward to our date. Playing the game, or genuinely looking forward to our date? We’ll find out later this week.